1982
4th Apr 2008
I brought my son home and things were as they always are for new parents, a little tough. It was about 3 months later that I looked in the mirror and realized that I was pregnant again. No kidding, I just looked at myself one morning and knew I was pregnant. I went to see the Doctor and he had to give me a blood test to be sure (this was of course before the invent of the home tests that are so actuate.
So I had a 3 month old and I was pregnant again. My husband’s reaction was “OH”. That was all he said. My beautiful girl was born 2/8/82 in the very early morning hours. She was and to this day still is my heart. Her Father and her never seemed to get along. There was always a problem between him and her. Actually any time I needed to do, or buy something for the kids - it was like pulled teeth. It was awful. And to make matters worse, he blamed me for having to work. Because I got pregnant. To say the least things in our marriage were not good. I decided then I was carrying my daughter that I was not have any more kids - I got my tubes tied early in the summer of 1983. One of the best choices in my life. Being the oldest of 8 kids, I knew I would be a better Mother if I only had two.
It was much later, Thanksgiving of 1995 that I found out that he never wanted kids and did not want the ones we already had. Well that was the straw that finally broke the camel’s back. I was done with him and the relationship. However due to finances, I was not able to leave until May of 1997. We lived pretty much as separate entities. And there were other men in my life. (not a good choice and one that I will not repeat) We were finally divorced in Sept of 1998. Another one of my better choices.
I got remarried in May of 2001. So now I have two of my own kids, 2 step-sons, 2 in-law children and 4 grandchildren and 2 more babies on the way this summer. Now who would have thought that my two kids would have multiplied into the family I have now. But I love every minute and they are one of the reasons why I need to get healthy!